YOU'VE GOT BLOOD ON YOUR HANDS...

It's always easy to ignore until the same fate befalls us....

Imagine this happening to you....empathize

Here's a message for all:

For those of you who agree that rape is caused by women and women who do not take care of the well being of men's dick by covering their heads, not wearing perfume and what not, know that you are responsible for enabling the rapists. You have Nur Amyliana Shuhada Mohd Noor's blood in your hands!!!

BAGI MEREKA MEREKA YANG SETUJU BAHAWA PERLAKUAN MEROGOL ADALAH DISEBABKAN OKEH KAUM WANITA, DAN WANITA YANG TIDAK MENJAGA HAL EHWAL KOTEY LELAKI DENGAN CARA TIDAK MEMAKAI TUDUNG, MEMAKAI MINYAK WANGI DAN SEBAGAINYA, KETAHUILAH ANDA ADALAH ANTARA MEREKA YANG BERTANGGUNGJAWAB MEMBERI KEMENANGAN DI PIHAK PEROGOL.  DARAH NUR AMALIANA BERADA DALAM TANGAN ANDA!!!!!

And here's one of them, with blood on their hands...I don't know who is worst in this matter, Nik Aziz for being irresponsible spreading such ideology using his "spiritual" leadership position, or those people who were laughing at his stupid remarks...

I'm disgusted by this....

Your skirt is too short, I RAPE YOU!!!

The world was shocked, yet again, on the news of a medical student in India, brutally raped by 6 men, the internal injuries which had led her to her demise, just yesterday.

Rape is rape,regardless whether it befalls unto a medical student,a child or prostitutes. There should not be any difference in how we, the society treat them or the degree of which we should feel appalled by this despicable crime. Is there any justification to why media should give priority coverage to a medical student raped as compared to a prostitute suffering from the same fate?

Rape is when a woman say "NO" to sex, regardless of what the event was leading to that word "NO". The sooner the society realizes this, the closer we are to tackling the problem of rape. As a medical doctor, in the past, I had handled a few if not too many rape cases. The very sad part is, those rape cases involved children from the age of 7 years old to 16 years old. I did my part to see the victim be comforted with not only medical attention, but more importantly, with empathy and justice, emotionally and psychologically. A victim of rape need to be told and convinced that what had happened to her is NOT HER FAULT, despite the society's habit of insisting that it is for some cases. Rape is not just about sex, but the power to execute sex. Rapists thrive on the power they feel within, the sexual gratification they obtained through hurting, through forcing their victims in a power display.

Whilst rapists have the excuse to rape simply because they have a disease of the mind, what is the excuse of the society for condoning such act, without realizing we are condoning it? What is the excuse of society for enabling rapists? How exactly we enable rapists? With or without intention, we do it by victimizing the victims. How can we punish the rapists when rape is not seen as a crime when conducted upon women who allegedly instigate rape?

How can we look the rapists in the eye and tell them that they are the scum of the earth when at the same time we encourage them or enable them by saying their victims deserved to be raped because they either look sexy or act provocatively, ergo deserved to be raped. I remember one case of an 8 year old child who was raped by her own maternal uncle, who appeared in court along with her grandmother (mother to the rapist) and her mother sometime about a few years after the incident of reporting the rape. I remember asking her grandmother and mother how the child victim was doing and the answer I got from the grandmother was, "She's fine. There is nothing wrong with her. she's not even pregnant". Grandma's answer had left me mute for what felt like a whole minute which is too long a time since everyone who knows me knows that getting me to shut up is THE problem. I had never in my life felt so disgusted with a statement and this saw my jaw dropped,pupils dilated as I just got up there and then, and walked off without saying anything. I did not thing any words were needed for what I lacked in words, my utterly disgusted facial expression had managed to fill up that void.

This is our society today. This was our society yesterday. How sad is it to acknowledge that despite all that so called modernization, the rising sky scrapers, the infrastructure, the technology, we as a human being had failed to keep up with material development. Our gadgets are ahead of us in development.

We allow the rapist get away with crime and instead concentrate on victimizing the victims.  What does this make us, as a society? What if one of our family member got raped? Will we only then learn some empathy or will we blame our beloved ones for being raped?

And do listen to this video.


 


What is Nik Aziz trying to say? That if I find his face disturbing to my sight, that I have the right to bash his face inside out? Is he saying by him dressing up in that attire, it makes me uncomfortable and just looking at him makes me feel hot, and not in a good way, rather more in a "is this an early menopausal heat flash?" kind of hot, that I deserve the mandate to rip his clothes apart so that I will feel cooler in temperature as I see less clothing on him? Or am I justified to burn his head attire simply because I feel the need to listen to the gush of blood rushing into the impinged blood vessels to his brains and call the whole deed as brain resuscitation?  Am I justified to bash Ibrahim Ali's face simply because to me, he looks like a toad and that his face is as ugly as the farts he produces through his mouth which he claims to be statements? Or do I attain the right to shave Samy Vellu's hair simply because fake stuff disturbs me?  Or do I get to squeeze Rosie's face just because I suspect that she had a bad botox job done and I had to do something in order to save her face from the lack of the ability to smile?  (Call it face resuscitation)

For something that is not even in the Quran, hence not mandated by God, Nik Aziz is encouraging men to rape women who do not "tutup aurat".  (Read HERE for details of aurat/tudung/hijab or click on http://lunchatthelakeclub.blogspot.com/2012/04/maybe-you-should-cover-your-eyes-men.html)  I wonder what next?  Will he preach women to rape women next?

Is Nik Aziz saying that the rape victims I and many more people who handled their cases who comprises sadly of children who had not even attain puberty let alone gain secondary sexual appearances, deserved to be raped simply because something about the victims instigated a compelling desire to accommodate certain feelings and it justifies them to act on this feeling, regardless of the damage done to the victims?

I realize that this video is aged about 2 years ago and the fact that this is circulating again involves political motives. But really,put aside politics, what exactly does he expect when he said something like this. Does he expect people to forget? I have problems even forgiving him for saying such irresponsible things that showed how much lack of empathy he has for women and the rape victims And what about the rape victims? Haven't they suffered enough, that you feel the need make them feel shittier by saying whatever happened to them was their own doing?

It is because of the people like Nik Aziz, who claims to be the spiritual leader that many raped victim had failed to come forward to file report against rape crimes inflicted unto them.  How is enabling rapist by victimizing rape victims be good to anyone's spirit?

The real scary issue is not what Nik Aziz says, rather the support he gets from saying this.  This is totally disturbing.  Listen to the background cheering in the video...and these are just men in this particular video...

When?  When will our society realize that rape is a crime no matter what instigated it.  That the rapist is the real McCoy and that we should start chasing after them instead of going all out to rub salt on the wound of rape victims?

When are Muslim women going to realize that covering the so called illusive "aurat" is NOT the solution to stopping rape?  Did putting women in their hijabs until only the eyes can be seen stopped prostitution industry in the Arab countries? Does this stop women from being raped regardless of the hijab they are clad in?

In a case of Qatif from Arab Saudi, who was raped and then ...get this.....sentences with 200 lashes for being alone with a man !!!  Why?  Rape wasn't enough of a punishment for her? Mind you she was 16 when all this had happened to her.  What were you like when you were 16?  If we were to punish severely our teenagers, I doubt we will have a Malaysia that has a future.  Punishing masturbating boys alone will be exhausting the tax payers' money.

Read it HERE or click on http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Qatif_rape_case.

Is this what our society is trying to work towards achieving?  The answer is within us, and it starts with the word

"Empathy"

I know this is a song from a long time back, but I will always love it and would like to share it with you. Enjoy the wisdom....or not...


 


 Ladies and Gentlemen of the class of ’99 

If I could offer you only one tip for the future, sunscreen would be
it. The long term benefits of sunscreen have been proved by
scientists whereas the rest of my advice has no basis more reliable
than my own meandering
experience…I will dispense this advice now.

Enjoy the power and beauty of your youth; oh nevermind; you will not
understand the power and beauty of your youth until they have faded.
But trust me, in 20 years you’ll look back at photos of yourself and
recall in a way you can’t grasp now how much possibility lay before
you and how fabulous you really looked….You’re not as fat as you
imagine.

Don’t worry about the future; or worry, but know that worrying is as
effective as trying to solve an algebra equation by chewing
bubblegum. The real troubles in your life are apt to be things that
never crossed your worried mind; the kind that blindside you at 4pm
on some idle Tuesday.

Do one thing everyday that scares you

Sing

Don’t be reckless with other people’s hearts, don’t put up with
people who are reckless with yours.

Floss

Don’t waste your time on jealousy; sometimes you’re ahead, sometimes
you’re behind…the race is long, and in the end, it’s only with
yourself.

Remember the compliments you receive, forget the insults; if you
succeed in doing this, tell me how.

Keep your old love letters, throw away your old bank statements.

Stretch

Don’t feel guilty if you don’t know what you want to do with your
life…the most interesting people I know didn’t know at 22 what they
wanted to do with their lives, some of the most interesting 40 year
olds I know still don’t.

Get plenty of calcium.

Be kind to your knees, you’ll miss them when they’re gone.

Maybe you’ll marry, maybe you won’t, maybe you’ll have children,maybe
you won’t, maybe you’ll divorce at 40, maybe you’ll dance the funky
chicken on your 75th wedding anniversary…what ever you do, don’t
congratulate yourself too much or berate yourself either – your
choices are half chance, so are everybody else’s. Enjoy your body,
use it every way you can…don’t be afraid of it, or what other people
think of it, it’s the greatest instrument you’ll ever
own..

Dance…even if you have nowhere to do it but in your own living room.

Read the directions, even if you don’t follow them.

Do NOT read beauty magazines, they will only make you feel ugly.

Get to know your parents, you never know when they’ll be gone for
good.

Be nice to your siblings; they are the best link to your past and the
people most likely to stick with you in the future.

Understand that friends come and go,but for the precious few you
should hold on. Work hard to bridge the gaps in geography and
lifestyle because the older you get, the more you need the people you
knew when you were young.

Live in New York City once, but leave before it makes you hard; live
in Northern California once, but leave before it makes you soft.

Travel.

Accept certain inalienable truths, prices will rise, politicians will
philander, you too will get old, and when you do you’ll fantasize
that when you were young prices were reasonable, politicians were
noble and children respected their elders.

Respect your elders.

Don’t expect anyone else to support you. Maybe you have a trust fund,
maybe you have a wealthy spouse; but you never know when either one
might run out.

Don’t mess too much with your hair, or by the time you're 40, it will
look 85.

Be careful whose advice you buy, but, be patient with those who
supply it. Advice is a form of nostalgia, dispensing it is a way of
fishing the past from the disposal, wiping it off, painting over the
ugly parts and recycling it for more than
it’s worth.

But trust me on the sunscreen…

Amme-get-it-awwwwwwn....

Woke up on 22.12.12 feeling a bit bumped that 21.12.12 turned out to be the Mayan's April fool's day....and had to get up to go to work... Thought I'd have a mini forensic of what happened that the earth did not end as according to the Mayan Prophecy:

 Possible explanations:

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Here's food for thoughts for those who actually buy this kind of pranks...

"If the Mayans were so good with prophecies, how come they never predicted their own demise/extinction?"

Leave Sir Elton John alone, go protest against yourselves lah

"Only two things are infinite, the universe and human stupidity, and I'm not sure about the former." 

 -Albert Einstein- 

This quote came to my mind soon after I read THIS . At first I thought PAS leaders did not like Sir Elton John's hair do, because it doesn't matter if a woman or a man cut his hair, it will still be "hedonism", (depending on who's looking at it...hedonism for Elton John if male cuts his hair and Hedonism for PAS if female and male cuts his hair). After all, in Kelantan, PAS had made this into a by-law ( I wonder if he actually meant "bhai law"...maybe gay people should not get their hair cut at all......must ask Karpal Singh regarding this matter) Read it HERE. Never mind who cut his pubic hair, I'm quite sure given a chance, PAS will have the time, if not make time to find out and determine whether this would be haram or halal too.

Turned out In regards to the hair cut; PAS spokesman said that,

 “It is in line with our government's policy to safeguard women and curb sexual harassment at work places,”

I think PAS should seriously take a look on their definition at the word "safeguard women" because if we were to follow the practice in Kelantan, by the time the girls become women and are of working age, probably half are victims of "legalized rape"( Malaysian Law states legal age of marriage is 18 years old...anything less than this age is considered as "rape" or some may see it as legalizing pedophile) because, it is legal for children at the age of 16 and sometimes probably younger by permission of auta-rities to be married off in Kelantan right? If there is any safeguarding to be done, it should be when they were still girls at young age, in need of protection from the supposedly wiser adults.

 If anyone were to run a statistics on divorce today, some may even agree that marriages should be banned altogether! I mean, we ban Muslims drinking (in public) because alcohol has more detrimental consequences as compared to it's benefits.. But applying to the logic behind the auta-rities banning this and that ; since marriage happens to have a high risk of causing so much emotional and financial damage to the victims, (probably worst impact on the effect of alcohol put together) why not just ban marriages?

After all, we have no qualms banning ballets(reason: the tutus ), we ban singer Erykah Badu (reason: for the tattoo), we ban Madonna from TV (reason: for being Madonna), we didn't ban Pussycat Dolls but fined them(reason: for being sexy ...albeit I suspect the actual reason for the fine was the name "Pussy" that may be related to "Puspal"...although I find this bewildering since Puss pal should by it's name, be Pussy friendly no?). Then we banned Irshad Manji's "Allah, liberty and love" for whatever reason they like to give, but I will still suspect because Islamic authorities have problems associating Allah with the word Liberty and Love". (where will their position as "authority" be if Allah grants liberty to His subjects and is full of Love instead of having pleasure in punishment?). If there is anyone who had downgraded Allah from the word "mighty", it would be the auta-rities with their perception of the word "mighty" pertaining to Allah, but this is another article and another time. I'm still waiting for them to ban Tapai and cigarettes.


Here are some suggestion of what PAS should protest against, since they claim that Islam is their theme: 


1. Protest against marriage altogether, since as I've explained earlier, marriages can lead to divorces, ergo emotional, health and wealth catastrophes.

2. So okaylah, if don't want to protest against marriages, then protest against child marriages: (reason elaborated above)

“The Kelantan Islamic Family Law Enactment stipulates the minimum marriageable age for women as 16 years unless there is approval from the Syariah Court,"

 3. Protest against women and men (or for some...men and men, women and women), circumbulating the Kaaba during pilgrimage and Umrah, without clear separate line based on gender to avoid immaculate conceptions.

In fact they should protest how men look like women clad in ikhram wear. How different is a man in Ikhram look as compared to Ancient Greek man...They should also hold a side protest against men not wearing underwear underneath those white cloth garments. They should also protest against Shakira's song "Underneath those clothes...there's a different story...." because this smells like Jewish propaganda against Islam or the very least, some Freemason agent would be involved in this one, if not the CIA. So why not protest against heterosexual circumbulation and just protest against men and men queuing in one line?

Is this some kind of the same double standard applied to how everything else ends with "ey" in Kelantan language but somehow when it comes to Kota Baru, it did not become "Kotey Baru"?


4. Protest against polygamy.

Based on 4:3 and 4:129 from the Quran, anyone with minimal IQ that qualifies him to be defined as "human being", would be able to deduce that polygamy is indeed discouraged and is hoped to be weaned off.


4:3 If you fear that you cannot be just to fatherless orphans, then marry those whom you see fit from the women, two,and three, and four. But if you fear you will not be fair then only one, or whom you already have contract with. So that you do not commit injustice and suffer hardship. 


4:129 You will not be able to be fair regarding the women even if you make every effort; so do not sway too greatly and leave her as one hanging in a void. If you reconcile and be aware, then God is Forgiving, Compassionate.

So why is PAS not protesting against the disrespect of the teachings of the Quran?

5. Protest against public consumption of Tapai, known to be drowning in ethanol (second group in the alcohol family and the only group that have the property of intoxication)

6. Protest against Tobacco companies (this should be interesting) for continuing to sell their cigarrettes despite it's association with increasing the risk for heart diseases not to mention lung cancer?

7. Protest against the negligence of alimony by divorced fathers. Instead of wasting tax payers' money going after couples on Valentine's Day, why not go after these irresponsible...well, I cannot call them father because they fail the definition badly, so let's call these species sperm donors shall we? Yes, why not go after these irresponsible sperm donors instead?

8. Protest against the loud noises made via the microphone from the mosques (which incidentally are made by infidels and therefore deserve a protest of usage as well), despite the Quran clearly stating to not make noise : (for details of this matter, click HERE)


17:110 Say, "Call on God or call on the Gracious. Whichever it is you call on, to Him are the best names." Do not be loud in your prayer, nor quiet; but seek a path in between. 

7:205 Remember your Lord in yourself out of humility and fear, and without being loud during the morning and the evening. Do not be of the heedless ones.

9. Protest against THE CHOICE TO BECOME STUPID.

We all know that, "Everyone is entitled to become stupid, some just abuse the privilege".

So why not protest against the privilege of working towards being stupid? After all, it is stated in the Quran that:

10:100 It is not for a person to acknowledge except by God's leave. He casts a wrath upon those who do not reason 

10. Last but certainly not least, why not PROTEST AGAINST THEMSELVES, since clearly they do not abide to 10:100