Words of Wisdom ...or so it seems...


Sunday, 30 December 2012

Your skirt is too short, I RAPE YOU!!!

The world was shocked, yet again, on the news of a medical student in India, brutally raped by 6 men, the internal injuries which had led her to her demise, just yesterday.

Rape is rape,regardless whether it befalls unto a medical student,a child or prostitutes. There should not be any difference in how we, the society treat them or the degree of which we should feel appalled by this despicable crime. Is there any justification to why media should give priority coverage to a medical student raped as compared to a prostitute suffering from the same fate?

Rape is when a woman say "NO" to sex, regardless of what the event was leading to that word "NO". The sooner the society realizes this, the closer we are to tackling the problem of rape. As a medical doctor, in the past, I had handled a few if not too many rape cases. The very sad part is, those rape cases involved children from the age of 7 years old to 16 years old. I did my part to see the victim be comforted with not only medical attention, but more importantly, with empathy and justice, emotionally and psychologically. A victim of rape need to be told and convinced that what had happened to her is NOT HER FAULT, despite the society's habit of insisting that it is for some cases. Rape is not just about sex, but the power to execute sex. Rapists thrive on the power they feel within, the sexual gratification they obtained through hurting, through forcing their victims in a power display.

Whilst rapists have the excuse to rape simply because they have a disease of the mind, what is the excuse of the society for condoning such act, without realizing we are condoning it? What is the excuse of society for enabling rapists? How exactly we enable rapists? With or without intention, we do it by victimizing the victims. How can we punish the rapists when rape is not seen as a crime when conducted upon women who allegedly instigate rape?

How can we look the rapists in the eye and tell them that they are the scum of the earth when at the same time we encourage them or enable them by saying their victims deserved to be raped because they either look sexy or act provocatively, ergo deserved to be raped. I remember one case of an 8 year old child who was raped by her own maternal uncle, who appeared in court along with her grandmother (mother to the rapist) and her mother sometime about a few years after the incident of reporting the rape. I remember asking her grandmother and mother how the child victim was doing and the answer I got from the grandmother was, "She's fine. There is nothing wrong with her. she's not even pregnant". Grandma's answer had left me mute for what felt like a whole minute which is too long a time since everyone who knows me knows that getting me to shut up is THE problem. I had never in my life felt so disgusted with a statement and this saw my jaw dropped,pupils dilated as I just got up there and then, and walked off without saying anything. I did not thing any words were needed for what I lacked in words, my utterly disgusted facial expression had managed to fill up that void.

This is our society today. This was our society yesterday. How sad is it to acknowledge that despite all that so called modernization, the rising sky scrapers, the infrastructure, the technology, we as a human being had failed to keep up with material development. Our gadgets are ahead of us in development.

We allow the rapist get away with crime and instead concentrate on victimizing the victims.  What does this make us, as a society? What if one of our family member got raped? Will we only then learn some empathy or will we blame our beloved ones for being raped?

And do listen to this video.


What is Nik Aziz trying to say? That if I find his face disturbing to my sight, that I have the right to bash his face inside out? Is he saying by him dressing up in that attire, it makes me uncomfortable and just looking at him makes me feel hot, and not in a good way, rather more in a "is this an early menopausal heat flash?" kind of hot, that I deserve the mandate to rip his clothes apart so that I will feel cooler in temperature as I see less clothing on him? Or am I justified to burn his head attire simply because I feel the need to listen to the gush of blood rushing into the impinged blood vessels to his brains and call the whole deed as brain resuscitation?  Am I justified to bash Ibrahim Ali's face simply because to me, he looks like a toad and that his face is as ugly as the farts he produces through his mouth which he claims to be statements? Or do I attain the right to shave Samy Vellu's hair simply because fake stuff disturbs me?  Or do I get to squeeze Rosie's face just because I suspect that she had a bad botox job done and I had to do something in order to save her face from the lack of the ability to smile?  (Call it face resuscitation)

For something that is not even in the Quran, hence not mandated by God, Nik Aziz is encouraging men to rape women who do not "tutup aurat".  (Read HERE for details of aurat/tudung/hijab or click on  I wonder what next?  Will he preach women to rape women next?

Is Nik Aziz saying that the rape victims I and many more people who handled their cases who comprises sadly of children who had not even attain puberty let alone gain secondary sexual appearances, deserved to be raped simply because something about the victims instigated a compelling desire to accommodate certain feelings and it justifies them to act on this feeling, regardless of the damage done to the victims?

I realize that this video is aged about 2 years ago and the fact that this is circulating again involves political motives. But really,put aside politics, what exactly does he expect when he said something like this. Does he expect people to forget? I have problems even forgiving him for saying such irresponsible things that showed how much lack of empathy he has for women and the rape victims And what about the rape victims? Haven't they suffered enough, that you feel the need make them feel shittier by saying whatever happened to them was their own doing?

It is because of the people like Nik Aziz, who claims to be the spiritual leader that many raped victim had failed to come forward to file report against rape crimes inflicted unto them.  How is enabling rapist by victimizing rape victims be good to anyone's spirit?

The real scary issue is not what Nik Aziz says, rather the support he gets from saying this.  This is totally disturbing.  Listen to the background cheering in the video...and these are just men in this particular video...

When?  When will our society realize that rape is a crime no matter what instigated it.  That the rapist is the real McCoy and that we should start chasing after them instead of going all out to rub salt on the wound of rape victims?

When are Muslim women going to realize that covering the so called illusive "aurat" is NOT the solution to stopping rape?  Did putting women in their hijabs until only the eyes can be seen stopped prostitution industry in the Arab countries? Does this stop women from being raped regardless of the hijab they are clad in?

In a case of Qatif from Arab Saudi, who was raped and then ...get this.....sentences with 200 lashes for being alone with a man !!!  Why?  Rape wasn't enough of a punishment for her? Mind you she was 16 when all this had happened to her.  What were you like when you were 16?  If we were to punish severely our teenagers, I doubt we will have a Malaysia that has a future.  Punishing masturbating boys alone will be exhausting the tax payers' money.

Read it HERE or click on

Is this what our society is trying to work towards achieving?  The answer is within us, and it starts with the word


I know this is a song from a long time back, but I will always love it and would like to share it with you. Enjoy the wisdom....or not...


 Ladies and Gentlemen of the class of ’99 

If I could offer you only one tip for the future, sunscreen would be
it. The long term benefits of sunscreen have been proved by
scientists whereas the rest of my advice has no basis more reliable
than my own meandering
experience…I will dispense this advice now.

Enjoy the power and beauty of your youth; oh nevermind; you will not
understand the power and beauty of your youth until they have faded.
But trust me, in 20 years you’ll look back at photos of yourself and
recall in a way you can’t grasp now how much possibility lay before
you and how fabulous you really looked….You’re not as fat as you

Don’t worry about the future; or worry, but know that worrying is as
effective as trying to solve an algebra equation by chewing
bubblegum. The real troubles in your life are apt to be things that
never crossed your worried mind; the kind that blindside you at 4pm
on some idle Tuesday.

Do one thing everyday that scares you

Don’t be reckless with other people’s hearts, don’t put up with
people who are reckless with yours.

Don’t waste your time on jealousy; sometimes you’re ahead, sometimes
you’re behind…the race is long, and in the end, it’s only with

Remember the compliments you receive, forget the insults; if you
succeed in doing this, tell me how.
Keep your old love letters, throw away your old bank statements.


Don’t feel guilty if you don’t know what you want to do with your
life…the most interesting people I know didn’t know at 22 what they
wanted to do with their lives, some of the most interesting 40 year
olds I know still don’t.

Get plenty of calcium.

Be kind to your knees, you’ll miss them when they’re gone.

Maybe you’ll marry, maybe you won’t, maybe you’ll have children,maybe
you won’t, maybe you’ll divorce at 40, maybe you’ll dance the funky
chicken on your 75th wedding anniversary…what ever you do, don’t
congratulate yourself too much or berate yourself either – your
choices are half chance, so are everybody else’s. Enjoy your body,
use it every way you can…don’t be afraid of it, or what other people
think of it, it’s the greatest instrument you’ll ever

Dance…even if you have nowhere to do it but in your own living room.
Read the directions, even if you don’t follow them.
Do NOT read beauty magazines, they will only make you feel ugly.
Get to know your parents, you never know when they’ll be gone for

Be nice to your siblings; they are the best link to your past and the
people most likely to stick with you in the future.
Understand that friends come and go,but for the precious few you
should hold on. Work hard to bridge the gaps in geography and
lifestyle because the older you get, the more you need the people you
knew when you were young.

Live in New York City once, but leave before it makes you hard; live
in Northern California once, but leave before it makes you soft.


Accept certain inalienable truths, prices will rise, politicians will
philander, you too will get old, and when you do you’ll fantasize
that when you were young prices were reasonable, politicians were
noble and children respected their elders.

Respect your elders.

Don’t expect anyone else to support you. Maybe you have a trust fund,
maybe you have a wealthy spouse; but you never know when either one
might run out.

Don’t mess too much with your hair, or by the time you're 40, it will
look 85.

Be careful whose advice you buy, but, be patient with those who
supply it. Advice is a form of nostalgia, dispensing it is a way of
fishing the past from the disposal, wiping it off, painting over the
ugly parts and recycling it for more than
it’s worth.

But trust me on the sunscreen…

Sunday, 23 December 2012


Woke up on 22.12.12 feeling a bit bumped that 21.12.12 turned out to be the Mayan's April fool's day....and had to get up to go to work... Thought I'd have a mini forensic of what happened that the earth did not end as according to the Mayan Prophecy:

 Possible explanations:








Here's food for thoughts for those who actually buy this kind of pranks...

"If the Mayans were so good with prophecies, how come they never predicted their own demise/extinction?"