In case it escapes our minds, the word "oppression" includes it's mental component. Then again, you need at least a simple organ called the brain to be able to experience mental oppression. So, sometimes, it is a bit difficult to achieve a plausible diagnosis when faced with such situation whereby the women blame themselves when clearly it's not completely their fault to begin with. You are torn between the differential diagnosis of oppression, ignoramus, desperately insecure or simply brainless to even experience the former differential diagnosis. If a person is told that they're not good enough everyday constantly and tenaciously, he/she will begin to believe it at some point. That is mental oppression. Ask the British Empire how this works, they'll tell ya.
So when a friend emailed us this link, we had a great time bitching about it..But after the laughter and the witty exchange of comments had simmered down, some of us if not all, were left with one uneasy feeling, alarmed. As for me, I do not know whether to laugh,or to cry. To me, this club perhaps marks the completion of a repetition of history. The Jahiliyah Era (Ignorance), . It's when women ourselves, fall into an abyss of acceptance of men's oppression.
Read it yourself HERE. And here's the latest updates: Perak Mufti support Obedient Wives Club (of course...why wouldn't he?) and here's Malaysia, mentioned in the international media The Forbes...(except this goes under the Un-Fortune8 of 500), read it HERE. Frankly, I think they should consider naming their club Club Obedient Wives, or COW for short.. so it is fitting to call the COWs.....4 stomach and 1 sad excuse of a brain....
You know that sensation you get when you ingest a sudden bulk of frozen ice cream? Yes, these folks are suffering from a similar kind of brain freeze, except that this looks to be of permanent nature.
Some excerpts plus my comment (in red):
"When husbands come home from work, wives do not welcome them with warm alluring smiles and sexy dressing sprayed with beautiful fragrance to stimulate sexual arousal - but with stale saliva. This is the reality today."
With that halal perfume lingering that can make a nostril hair drop off from the irritation? I don't think so.
This is one difference between men and women that these bunch of nitwits should comprehend. Most women cannot have sex when they are tired doing the house chores or when they are pissed with the man while men can have sex as long as they can still carry their balls around, unless they have a longstanding non-standing problem. They're angry, they have angry sex. They're sad, they have mercy sex. They're gay, they have sex, although depends on the definition of gay, on both accounts they all still manage to have sex. Make no mistake about it. The two heads may share the same name, but totally different governing bodies.
Furthermore, has it occurred to men that women too need to have a good visual input as foreplay and a romantic mood set in order to have the need for sex? So why can't they harp on men to reciprocate by taking the trouble to woo ( I said woo not woe) their wives instead of putting the responsibility of their sexual relationship solely on themselves? Why not have a "Kelab mengorat Bini" where they have classes for example teaching men how to cook romantic dinners for their wives, or at least learn some foot massage if study on GPS (that's G-spot positioning System by the way) is too much to handle?
Of course there is some truth in the the allegation that women sometimes take their hubbies for granted the moment they have secured the title "wife", only but minute of quantity. Again, it takes two to tango. The problem with society today, is that I dare say majority, both husbands and wives, have this perception that marriage is the end of dating, so couples tend to take each other for granted, consumed with the contentment of the false security of an institution called marriage.
If so, there is some truth in the statement whereby women before marriage is an economist in the kitchen, an artist at home and a devil in bed and after marriage become artist in the kitchen, devil at home and an economist in bed, these things work both ways. When women are not happy with how they are not appreciated as a companion, that's when counter phrases like, "Men are root of all women's problems: MENstrual pain, MENtal illness, MENopause...." comes by.
"Much of the problems in society are caused by disobedient wives who do not bring joy and happiness to their husbands and do not serve their husbands well," she said."
Ya, I bet these bunch of neurotics would have no qualms blaming the disobedient Japanese wives for causing Japan's recent tsunami too.
I thought the only one to SERVE is God... You don't "serve" your husband, you love him. And when a woman loves a man, she will do almost anything for him, that's a given. But men need to reciprocate in order to earn a woman's love, respect, honor and of course vice versa, in order to make a marriage work.
(30:21) "Among His signs is that He created for you spouses from among yourselves, in order to have tranquility and contentment with each other. He places in your heart love and care towards your spouses. In this, there are signs for people who think."
But the problem is people DON'T LIKE to think. It's too time consuming and tiring for a brain of pea sizes.
"Happy husbands won't abuse wives"
I'm sure they didn't even find this true in "Happy Feet". So, basically, these ignoramuses are saying that a man is abusive because it is a woman's fault, and not because he needs a psychiatric evaluation. No wonder our Psychiatry wards are full of women suffering from the consequences of abuse rather than the men who abuses. I'm sure these are the same crowd who victimizes the rape victim by blaming the rape on the raped and not on the rapist. What does it take for society to decipher rape victims...be raped to attain such empathy? I'm beginning to wonder where these women's heads have been? Up Saifool's arse? I mean so far what is there that's not up his arse come to think of it. But I digress.
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When a wife is reduced to the word "obey", she is no better than the dog who is taught tricks of fetching a thrown bone, roll over and play dead (except with women, we are expected to roll over and play anything but dead) while our tongue hang out and dribble saliva, a sign of eagerness to please it's master.
Here's to give you a scenario of how women, in the eyes of these mentally challenged species, are expected to dance to men's tunes. Obviously the Hippo is the man and the dog is the woman according to this Club. Maybe they should make this their official video or something...
Click HERE to view this cute video for FB readers.
What happen to women are garments to men as they are to women?
[2:187] " Permitted to you, on the night of the fasts, is the approach to your wives. They are your garments and ye are their garments. "
So what's up with women being treated like disposable undergarments? Isn't that what the word "obey" strongly suggested.
This is nothing new, because most culture, throughout history, have proven that men do their best to feel good by making the women feel inferior than themselves. It's to do with that extra appendage hanging in between their hairy thighs and the ego that comes with it. But when women accepts the fact that she is created solely for the purpose of becoming men's muse, then I suppose, we don't have to wait for 2012 when the world is prophesied to end, because the "civilization" had already ended.
The only time women are put in a pedestal in Islam today, is probably when the symbol of the entrance to our reproductive organ is kissed by millions during circumbulation of God's House. I mean, otherwise, why are we kissing the Hajaral Aswad?
I'm sure that was not what God had meant when He said in Surah 4:1, "...............Respect the womb that bore you".
Compare women today, and the women during the Jahiliyah Era. Can anyone spot any difference? Have the accusing fingers stop pointing at us every time anything bad happens? Are we still not oppressed? (Well, that ex-Al Arqam woman, after just completing her participation in "Jom Poligami" campaign is a living example of mental oppression). Are we not the only gender being punished for crimes when men commit the same crime yet gets away with it? Are our auta-rities not biased towards men? If the answers to the questions above is "NO" on all accounts, then anyone with an acceptable IQ will be able to decipher the failure of the religion itself. The only question left to answer is "Had the occurrence of Islam freed women the way Islam, not it's crooked misinterpretation, had intended it to? " If the answer is again, "NO", then tell me, what is the point of being "enlightened"?
There are many verses in the Quran that shows men and women are equal in the eyes of God.
4:124, which says,
‘If any of you do deeds of righteousness, whether it be male or a female and has faith, they shall surely enter Paradise and not the least injustice shall be done to them."
16:97 which says
‘If any of you perform good deeds, be it a man or a woman and is a believer, We shall give you good life and We should reward you for all your good works"
‘O humankind, We have created you from a single pair of male and female and have divided you into nations and tribes, so that you shall recognize each other not that you despise each other and the most honored in the sight of God, is the one who is the most righteous
33:35, which says,
"For Muslim men and Muslim women,for believing men and women,for devout men and women,for true men and women, for men and women who are patient and constant,for men and women who give in charity,for men and women who fast and deny themselves,for men and women who guard their chastity, for men and women who engage much in God's praise,God has prepared for them forgiveness and a vast reward"
Alas! Despite all these positive surahs, there's One surah some men continue to harp on. Yes, it only takes one surah that they want to hear and in favor of them, to conveniently out shadow the adjuvant surahs that gives us the whole picture.
The famous 4:34:
"Men are guardians of women because God has favored some more than others and because they spend out of their wealth. (In their turn) righteous women are (meant to be) devoted and to guard what God has (willed to be) guarded even though out of sight (of the husband). As for those (women) on whose part you fear ill-will and nasty conduct, admonish them (first), (next) separate them in beds (and last) beat them. But if they obey you, then seek nothing against them. Behold, God is most high and great.
Wow..just in one surah, men gets to be the boss and beat their wives. No wonder Islam attracts many men more it does women (unless they are masochists who enjoy demoting themselves to a second class citizenship by common practice), more so if one is a male chauvinist pig. Otherwise, we need to heavily rely on the Propagating Forth strategy and pass down the religion via hereditary, or via conversion by marriage and hope democracy will help us take over the world, if not to keep the religion alive. Seal the deal with human made "Apostasy" , just in case. Islam is no longer spread via it's beauty, but more so via it's insecurities...
Well, here's food for thoughts (if one cares to feed one's brain), to explain what "guardian" or in Arabic, "qawwamun" is.
It is a plural to the word "qawwam", and the root of the key word, qawwamun is "qama" which means "to stand or to make something stand or to establish something". A related word is qa'im which means "one who stands or makes something stand". Qawwam is an intensive form of qa'im and has a sense of continuity in the action involved. So it means one who is continuously standing over something (as, for example, a guard or caretaker) or one who is continuously making something stand, for example, maintaining a stance.
It is easy to misinterpret this particular ayat, in favor of women, just as what men love to do with the ayat to justify their wars, oppressing women, torturing gays and people having illegal sex or drinks....it can be misinterpreted something like this maybe? :
"Ironically, men are expected to "maintain a stand", so why are these women taking the blame of men's erm.."non-standing problem" when it's clearly men are responsible to "maintain a stand" on their own? They are the caretaker of their own standings, so, if men cannot get it to stand, stand up for it and get viagra lah."
Moving along, but the thing is, the function of qawwam is also understood in the Qur'an to be characterized by fairness. Thus in 4:134 and 5:8, the only other passages in the Qur'an where the word is used, the believers are told:
4: 134 "O you who believe! Be qawwamin with fairness..."
5:8 "O you who believe! Be qawwamin for God as witnesses to fairness..."
As for "beating" the Mrs., bear in mind that the Quranic translators were men, the same species who hardly marry women who are older than them which is ironically the most under-practiced practice of Muhammad by the ummah as compared to say...polygamy. So since they like to marry young women if possible who had just attained menarche, I suppose it is more easier to "beat" the young wives as compared to the older ones, who have at least some knowledge on how to kill their husband and make it look like an accident. Before you gleam , beam, whatever, here.... read what Edip Yuksel's take on men's right to "beat" their wives (?).
In [10:100] God had warned us:
"It is not for any soul to believe save by the permission of Allah. He hath cast a wrath upon those who do not reason."
For the women who do not reason, and adopt the non-thinking that their existence on the planet earth is solely for the purpose of satisfying men's sexual lust, and excepts the fact that men's shortcomings are solely theirs to blame, then by all means, you've made your beds, so go lie on them, naked, alluring with halal perfume, drooling with fresh saliva of lust, drowning in an abyss of insecurity that the inability to serve your husband may yet drive him to the nearest whore house, or worst, polygamy.......waiting, for their fat, pot bellied,-parochial-and-pedantic-headed husband to walk through the front door Sex-pecting you. A case of "serve who right" or "serve you right" ??
Maybe you are lying on the bed of God's wrath... but don't go dragging other women into it...